The bigger issue here was the complete lack of a library. The library tab was totally empty. Didnt even say Library in there.
I finally resolved this last night by uninstalling and reinstalling - but this of course means I had to restore an old database (again).
I still seem to be missing images from many files - and even if I try to force it to update these by right clicking a given folder and choosing "update all" (but with only Update Artwork checked - I dont want it to update the metadata - thats fine) it doesnt seem to update the images.
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